Q: We’re driving from Chicago to Oakland next month to attend a big family reunion. We expect to do it in three days, stopping two nights at motels along the way. We’ll be away for at least a week.

The problem is that our parents want to come with us. We’re not exactly young, but Mom is 78 and Dad is 84. They’re in good shape for their ages, but we’re worried that they’ll not only slow us down, but could need emergency treatment along the way. What do you suggest?

Q: This is a very personal problem, but I need some advice. My husband and I are celebrating our 40th wedding anniversary in Las Vegas. Our kids and grandkids will be there. My husband wants us to go for a big suite, with a private whirlpool spa and all the trimmings. That’s OK, with me, but he says he’ll also insist there’s a ceiling mirror above the bed.

Q: Our kids are grown and on their own, and we’re empty nesters. Now we take at least four road trips a year. My spouse always insists that we leave our dog in a kennel while we’re gone. I usually agree, but Bowser has been a member of the family for nearly 20 years, and I believe he deserves to go with us on our next trip. It will be just a two day drive to a beautiful beach area where dogs are allowed. We’ll be there a week, and I know Bowser would have a great time. How do I convince my spouse? 

A: Bowser at 20 is elderly, but if you want to take him, first have a check up by a vet. If the dog is healthy, but must take regular prescription medications, be sure to pack an adequate supply for the trip. If your dog is very nervous and easily frightened, ask the vet for medication to give for such emergencies.

Q: I admit it! I’m a smoker, and I’m getting really tired of all the anti-smoking restrictions when I’m traveling. I don’t mind if hotels or restaurants make me smoke outside or in certain areas, but I’m running into more and more places on my trips where smoking is totally forbidden. Do we smokers have any rights any more?

A: We have a several comments. Long ago, we who were in the Army often heard: smoke ‘em if you got ‘em. The squawk box told Navy guys: the smoking lamp is lit. In those days of living in tight-bunked quarters in barracks and ships, non-smokers had to breathe it and endure it. Smoking was considered a normal way of life for at least 70 percent of all adults (and almost as many 13- to 18-year-old kids, too).